if you can't handle my PINKNESS, then you shouldn't be here

if you can't handle my PINKNESS, then you shouldn't be here
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I live life enjoying as much as possible by enjoying the outdoors, savouring dinner with the family, having fun with friends, or seeing my little sister smile. I understand the value of a penny and that hard work pays off. I am very ambitious and driven and have set goals for myself to achieve. I can be very serious but yet I have a fun personality to have a good time. I feel that life is a huge journey and the key to a successful life is to live in the moment and not dwell on the past! i am an optimist. I'm a hopeless romantic and a dreamer. I love to just go outside and contemplate life while I feel the breeze in my hair and the sun kiss my cheeks! I hope to travel the world one day because there is so much beauty to see in the world. i get bored easily(something i'm not proud of). I am a huge roller coaster and adrenalin junkie and I just love life! i'm a great public speaker. i'm a person who tries to be the best i can be. :D i am also a feminist. a HUGE fan of oprah winfrey. lastly, i'm going to be a history maker.

Friday, 9 March 2012

a woman's life

As soon as a baby girl is born, she's given her father's surname. If I ever have children(which I don't intend to have because I do not want any), I would give it MY SURNAME. YEAH. I carried it for 9 freaking months. Went through lots of shit. But at the end of the day I'm not given any credit? He is not the head of the family, we BOTH ARE. Tell me, what did he do, stand around and give the woman some support as she goes through all that pain. I don't know how painful it is, but I do know that if it is worse than menstruation cramps, then you had BETTER give your woman some credit and name the baby with her surname. Not to mention the post-pregnancy effects. gain of weight, depression, lack of confidence, it takes the fun out of baby making and the continuation of life. So give the woman some respect and give the baby her surname. Who made you boss? Who gave you the right to give the baby your surname? YOUR EGO DID I SUPPOSE. Ladies, if he doesn't help around or isn't involved in raising your child, tell him! Don't sit there and suffer in silence! Ask and you WILL receive, YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO. After all that trouble, you deserve a break! You deserve to feel pampered and not pressured.

When I was a little kid about the age of 4 or 5, I took my shirt off and walked around the house like my dad did. My mom didn't exactly scold me, but she told me it wasn't right. I never knew why then, and I still don't know why I couldn't do it. So you see, I've been a feminist since I was a little girl.

Think about it, women all over the world are consider second to men. politics, men rule. Banking, men rule. Religion, men rule(I refuse to belive that God is unjust and one-sided).

All my life I've done things to prove to myself that I'm as good as any man is and better. The other day, I assembled a machine all by myself as I saw the awe in my (traditional) grandmother's eyes. My dad even called me the man of the house.

I HATE THAT PHRASE "MAN OF THE HOUSE". It potrays a man being strong and a leader. I know, I know, studies have shown that men are stronger physically but guess what, women are stronger mentally. I'd rather have my definition of strong be "stronger mentally" and so guess what? I'm the WOMAN OF THE HOUSE.

Why would you call something where the gender is unknown a "he". Why do you call God "he"? When the gender is unknown call it an "it"! Now of course you can't call God "it" so why can't you call God "she". "I love God. She showers me with blessings everyday" Sounds wrong? So why does "I love God. He showers me with blessings everyday" sound so right? God is fair. I know She is(do you have a problem with that? don't tell me because I don't care).

 AND WHAT IS THIS VICTIM BLAMING CRAP WHEN A WOMAN IS RAPED?? She did not ask for it, YOU FORCED YOURSELF ON HER. Don't tell me how to dress, don't tell me not to go out at night because it is dangerous out there for a woman, don't tell me I have no control over my body. and most importantly DO NOT IMPOSE LAWS TELLING ME I CAN'T CHOOSE TO HAVE A CHILD IF I DON'T WANT TO. It is MY BODY, not the government's body, not my family's body, not my partner's body. Now I do not support abortion, but I believe that a woman has control over her body. It should be purely her choice.

a woman's life is sweet, it is beautiful. It shouldn't be lived in fear or of any lesser of a man's. A woman's life is hers. She controls it. She makes her own decisions. She doesn't let anyone bring her down because she's a woman and yet she still has to work hard to prove herself.

Do not be the opressed voice in your community. Do not regard yourself as the second one. whether you're a daughter, sister, wife, mother, grandmother, you deserve to be treated with respect and equally. You're not here to "compliment" a man. LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE WITH BRIGHTNESS AND POSITIVITY. LOVE BEING A WOMAN. Be grateful that you exist because the world wouldn't function without you.
Your gender DOES NOT define the life you live. So be proud of who and what you are.
As a woman, you're beautiful.

this video fuelled my anger for today and that's why I typed this post out.



  1. I just saw today that you are following my blog, so I skipped on over to yours. I LOVE this post with a fiery passion! I'm a feminist too, and I know that I will hyphenate my name, so that my children (if I have any, and that is a BIG if) will have my name too!

    You go girl!! :) I'm going to watch that video as soon as my school schedule allows!


    1. HEY LAURA! glad you feel the same way.
      You're adorable! I love your blog! :D
      HAHAHAH. thanks!
      much love. :)


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