if you can't handle my PINKNESS, then you shouldn't be here

if you can't handle my PINKNESS, then you shouldn't be here
loves all things pink


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I live life enjoying as much as possible by enjoying the outdoors, savouring dinner with the family, having fun with friends, or seeing my little sister smile. I understand the value of a penny and that hard work pays off. I am very ambitious and driven and have set goals for myself to achieve. I can be very serious but yet I have a fun personality to have a good time. I feel that life is a huge journey and the key to a successful life is to live in the moment and not dwell on the past! i am an optimist. I'm a hopeless romantic and a dreamer. I love to just go outside and contemplate life while I feel the breeze in my hair and the sun kiss my cheeks! I hope to travel the world one day because there is so much beauty to see in the world. i get bored easily(something i'm not proud of). I am a huge roller coaster and adrenalin junkie and I just love life! i'm a great public speaker. i'm a person who tries to be the best i can be. :D i am also a feminist. a HUGE fan of oprah winfrey. lastly, i'm going to be a history maker.

Friday, 20 July 2012

This too shall pass

I know I can be a better person than this. I'm letting myself falter under change and the ability to adapt. I'm letting the devil inside me take over. And I'm not happy...with myself. It is not difficult really, all it takes is my determination to live a positive lifestyle.

I find that I'm not becoming a better person. I need to be kinder, slower on my judgement, friendlier and most importantly less harsh on myself for when I make a mistake. Yes, I do have self-reflecting thoughts before I go to bed. It helps me identify the things that make me unhappy or unsatisfied.

And right now, I'm only unhappy with myself.

I used to be the girl who could speak up in public without thinking about what others thought about me, I used to be the girl who could walk down the hall with confidence, I used to be the girl who LOVED people first then get to know them.

What the hell is wrong with me?

Sometimes I'm laughing like mad, sometimes I'm at the bottom of the wheel and I find myself cranky and angry at the rest of the world.

I always tell myself "If you have time to whine/complain about something, you have the time to do something about it"


And the better person I will be. 

Wednesday, 4 July 2012

Punishing the victim? unjust ruling against S.Kalaichelvi

I am sad and disappointed in the Malaysian judicial system. The system that punishes its victims and gets away with it. This incident happened last year and I found out about this today when a picture depicting the story of this woman went viral on Facebook today. My first reaction: I was appalled! Here's the newspaper report on S. Kalaichelvi a 24 year old woman who defended herself against a potential rapist.

IPOH: A 24-year-old housewife was sentenced to two years’ jail for culpable homicide for killing a man who allegedly repeatedly pressured her to have sex.
High Court judge Justice Zainal Adzam Abd Ghani found S. Kalaichelvi guilty of killing M. Kumaran, 30, at her home in Taman Bistari, Ayer Tawar, on Jan 7 last year between 3am and 3.30am.
”According to the facts of the case, the act was done in a cruel manner.
”The accused had also tried to dispose of the evidence after killing him with a stainless steel parang and a rod,” he said in his judgment here yesterday.
The prosecution had amended the charge from Section 302 of the Penal Code for murder which carries the mandatory death penalty to Section 304A for causing death by negligence.
The latter charge carries a maximum two years’ jail or a fine, or both upon conviction.
Justice Zainal Adzam ruled that the sentence would run from the date of her arrest on Jan 10 last year.
According to the facts of the case, Kalaichelvi had killed Kumaran using both weapons in self-defence.
During mitigation earlier, defence counsel Charan Singh said Kalaichelvi had acted in self-defence when Kumaran broke into her house and demanded that he “sleep with her”.
“Kalaichelvi was also pregnant at the time and was only protecting herself.
“She is a mother of three children, aged one, five and six,” Charan Singh said, adding that Kalaichelvi was also a first-time offender.
Deputy Public Prosecutor Nur Laila Mohamed Nazil said a post mortem report showed that there were multiple slash wounds on the deceased’s head.
“The accused hacked the victim repeatedly on his head,” she said, urging the court to mete out a sentence commensurate with the offence.
Nur Laila also told the court that Kalaichelvi’s husband G. Kalipar, 26, would be charged under Section 201 for disposing of the evidence related to the killing.

Now you tell me something, when an unknown man breaks into your home in the middle of the night with the intention to rape you knowing that you are pregnant and that YOUR life and your baby's life is at stake, wouldn't you do all you can to save yourself? Won't you do all can to defend yourself against a rapist? If you ask me, he deserved the death. You don't go around terrorising women by raping them. If you do, be prepared to face the consequences. And in this case, death. HE DESERVED THIS. HE ASKED FOR IT.

The poor woman only defended herself and her baby! The judgement is unfair! She shouldn't have had been charged in the first place! WHAT BULLSHIT IS IN THE JUDGE'S HEAD?

We need to save this poor lady. This is UNJUST! I've never come across such a screwed up judgement before! We need to voice out against this! We need to protest against this! WE NEED TO ORGANIZE ONE. JUSTICE FOR S. KALAICHELVI!

Facebook page "we want justoce for S.Kalaichelvi"

Tuesday, 3 July 2012

Braces day 2

It took me a very long time to get out of bed today. I hated the fact that I had to use two types of toothbrushes. A soft one and the interdental one. The first time I tried brushing my teeth was last night. I was quite excited, because you know, you get excited when you use something new right? But gosh, I whimpered in bed today at the thought of brushing my teeth. So I decided to go back to sleep. I did that like many times until I couldn't stand trying to go back to sleep anymore. Also, I needed to pee. I cannot wash my face the way I used to before braces. I would purse my lips whenever I wash my face, hmm, a habit maybe. The time and energy spent on brushing my teeth, I'll probably get used to it. Flossing, that reminds me, I need to get a Super Floss(yeah, that's what they call it).

My mouth tastes of METAL. I keep thinking that nobody would KISS me for the next two years.

Eating was pure torture. It was like an episode of Me vs. Food! Last night my dad told me he'd buy some soft food back for me. I expected mashed potatoes, mushroom soup, etc etc. Imagine how disappointed I'd felt when he brought back McDonald's porridge and fries back for me! I hate porridge! I'm Indian! Porridge is tasteless to people like me! So I emptied three packets of black pepper into the porridge. It didn't turn it into a 5 star meal but it did make it taste a lot better.

Even DRIVING was pure torture with braces on! Yesterday I drove all the way to the mall to buy a lamp(for my new room!) after getting my braces done and instead of concentrating on driving, I kept checking the mirror to see if I looked alright with braces on. And the odd thing with braces is that you tend to make a lot of funny faces. So at the parking lot, this lady thought I was smiling at her and she walked as quickly as possible towards her car.

Oh gosh. I guess it takes some getting used to. Enough of my rantings for today. Hopefully the end result is good. I can't wait to see what I look like after braces! But that seems like ages away! :P

Here's a couple of pictures of me with braces on.