if you can't handle my PINKNESS, then you shouldn't be here

if you can't handle my PINKNESS, then you shouldn't be here
loves all things pink


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I live life enjoying as much as possible by enjoying the outdoors, savouring dinner with the family, having fun with friends, or seeing my little sister smile. I understand the value of a penny and that hard work pays off. I am very ambitious and driven and have set goals for myself to achieve. I can be very serious but yet I have a fun personality to have a good time. I feel that life is a huge journey and the key to a successful life is to live in the moment and not dwell on the past! i am an optimist. I'm a hopeless romantic and a dreamer. I love to just go outside and contemplate life while I feel the breeze in my hair and the sun kiss my cheeks! I hope to travel the world one day because there is so much beauty to see in the world. i get bored easily(something i'm not proud of). I am a huge roller coaster and adrenalin junkie and I just love life! i'm a great public speaker. i'm a person who tries to be the best i can be. :D i am also a feminist. a HUGE fan of oprah winfrey. lastly, i'm going to be a history maker.

Friday, 21 December 2012

Feelings are real

Your feelings are real and valid. Why should you have to justify it in any way?
For example, you're hurt that your friend is drifting apart from you and you try to feel better about yourself by thinking of the situations where you could have had it worse. You're only dealing with it in a way where you don't have to face it, and someday it is going to come back, because you can't hide from it.

To be angry when your husband cheats on you.
To be hurt when a stranger calls you fat.
To be disappointed in someone you relied on.
To feel weighed down by all the workload you have.

It sucks when someone tells you that you shouldn't feel a certain way, or if you should be grateful you're not in a worse condition. Isn't that the very essence of being human? To feel?
To love, to hurt, to cry, to be disappointed, to be messed up inside, to be confused, to laugh? 
Doesn't that just make you human? One that is well and functional?
If you were to justify all your emotions, what would be the difference then? You wouldn't be able to tell happiness from sadness then. Everything would be numb and monotonous. 
That's not life. Life is suppose to throw you down then build you up and you're suppose to feel every single bit of it because they are your feelings and you have the right to it.

By suppressing your feelings, you're not doing any justice to yourself. You want to get better? Feel it, embrace it. Allow yourself to build that compassion for yourself. Usually when you allow yourself to feel the pain and sadness, it will pass by faster than when you don't.
If you would like to comfort someone, you should never ever deny or justify their feelings. It may seem insignificant to you, but it means the world to that person. 

Know that your feelings are real, valid and reasonable. 

The sky

The sky makes me feel safe. That security and sobriety I need in my life to remind me that it is beautiful, life. It isn't as cruel as depicted. What we have will always be a small fraction of what's beyond that sky. It is humbling, really. And that's what I need, humility. I think that's what we all need, we've gotten caught up and arrogant with our money and our technology that everything is moving too quickly.

Everything is moving too quickly. As the end of the year approaches, I can't help but think of how well I've spent the year. I did not even have resolutions! 

Flashback throughout the year. I remember the first day of 2012 very well. I was with family and friends. I wouldn't have had changed a thing. 
I learnt how to drive. That's a life skill I'm going to use for the rest of my life. Then I'd gotten my SPM results. Still cannot forget the look of pride my parents had when I'd received it. I will never ever forget that look. It's these little things that I remember, you know.
I learnt how to live on my own when I'd started college. No parents, new friends, new environment. That was my first college. Before I'd gotten into KYUEM.
And that was in UCSI. It was alright, I'm pretty grateful for that experience. 
If there's one thing I learnt from that was that that was not the life I wanted to live. Living in the big city, living all alone, living in fear. Yes, it was lonely. If it wasn't for GEP Church and Pastor Jacob, I wouldn't have had survived that. 

Then came KYUEM. One of the best things to EVER happen in my life. You want a quality education/life, KY is THE place. The best college around. I'm not talking about the wonderful teachers or the prestige it holds, I'm talking about the friends I've met in college. I am ever grateful for that. I'm more comfortable in my own skin thanks to these people! You know who you are. :)

I would say that it has been an eventful year. I wouldn't change a thing. 2012 is definitely a year to remember. 2012 changed me. 
I made my transition to adulthood(sort of) in 2012. This is the year where friendship flourished.
Sadly, this was the year I lost my grandma too.
I really do wonder where she is now, and if she's watching over us. I do take comfort in the fact that I will join her someday.

She is watching me, from beyond that sky.

Sunday, 9 December 2012

Pringles is just really expensive poppadom

Home doesn't feel like home anymore. It is true what they say, once you're out of home, you can never truly come back home as the same person.
I'm not the same person anymore. I've changed, I've grown. I can't be treated like the same person anymore. I'm an adult now, I'm as capable as most adults now. I'm not trying to grow up too fast or anything like that, I'm just asking to be treated like a mature, capable-of-making-a-decision human being. 

Heck, even if I wasn't an adult, I would want to be treated the same way, you know? 

This is the thing with adults, they can't seem to accept the fact that the younger generation might be capable of maturity. 

So what is it with the Pringles?
Yeah, it just dawned me that Pringles is actually really expensive poppadom.
At home we have chutney like all the time. The chutney is always there. The poppadom too.
And I love my chutney with poppadom  Unfortunately I finished up all the poppadom yesterday. And then I spotted the Pringles. So I had my chutney with Pringles.

Yes, I'm weird that way. I have weird food combinations. I had my oats the other day with kaya. It was surprisingly better with kaya.
Heck, everything is better with kaya, man! I also had my oats with chocolate milk the other day(i suppose that isn't so weird).
I've also had chocolate with kaya and strawberry jam before. :B
Weird food combinations are awesome! They test your imagination and push you to try the unexpected. :D
Now will you please excuse me, I believe I spotted some Toblerone and ice cream in the fridge just now.

Peace out, y'all! :)

Monday, 3 December 2012

No, you're not doing it right with women's rights. feminism is much needed!

In conjunction with International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women which was on the 25th of December(yes, I'm rather late. Better late than never, no?), I am here to not only rant about how our Malaysian government is not doing right, but to also suggest some reforms that we might perhaps consider.
So you see, I'm a visionary ranter! Ha. Genius.

First I would like to address what Najib said about how our country does not need a women's rights movement. 
Let me just remind you that in the history of Malaysian women's rights, it wasn't the government that fought for justice, no, it wasn't the government that fought for equality and reforms. 
Yes , it was our women's rights movements! 
To say that we'll do without them shows how arrogant and ungrateful you are towards what we have turned into today, and do I smell some male chauvinism here? (ah no! I was exaggerating on that part. Don't mind me, I'm a little over-dramatic at times.)
Also, you said at the Women's Day Celebration, "In some developed countries, the men were allowed to vote before women but, in Malaysia women had the right to vote from the start. Don't think that everything is better(in the developed nations) as we are way ahead especially in terms of women's rights."
Dearest Mr. Najib, are you implying that we as women should be grateful that we had the right to vote when it was rightfully ours? Why should we be satisfied with just that? Malaysia, you are not perfect, stop pointing out the one actual good thing you have and ignoring all the flaws, that is arrogance. That statement is insulting to other countries and reflects upon our arrogance. How many times have I used the word arrogance? Gosh I need a new synonymous word. I cannot believe you would settle for that much when it comes to women's rights and not go all the way, to strive to be the best!
Malaysia, let me remind you, we have a long way to go before achieving equality. You think we are achieving progress? Well yes, but at a snail's pace my fellow Malaysians, and I will expose why in this blog entry.

Also Mr. Najib, you are not a woman. Please give up the post as Minister of Women, Family and Community Development! You cannot take on that role unless you are truly, actually a woman. You will never understand us, never, Najib. Give it up please, to a capable woman. We already have enough men in the Senate with just two women(correct me if I'm wrong, I've been rather outdated on the politics lately, but I'm doing my catching up now that the 13th General Election is around the corner, so exciting!). 

Well, now, time for some reformation.
Do visit the Ministry of Women, Family and Community Development's webpage.
Now, at the bottom of that page there is an online poll. The question states "The ideal marriage age for a woman is:" And then they go on to state 15-20, 20-25, 26-30,31-35 years of age as the choice of answers. I am deeply insulted by this. I am 18 years of age and to think that the one of the choices for the "ideal" marriage age falls in 15-20 years. NO, just no okay. At this age we need empowerment, education! Not marriage. Also, as a (rather radical) feminist, I am deeply insulted because they didn't give "never" as a choice. Assuming that women will marry and enslave their lives to marriage? Yes, marriage might work for some people, but what about for people (like me) who don't believe in marriage and that marriage is just a wicked institution that enforces patriarchy? 
OH GOOD LORD. Please, if you want to start somewhere, start by changing your mentality! Patriarchy is wrong in every aspect and it only enhances superiority in men. 
Malaysia! Please no. As soon as babies are born they are given their father's name. No Malaysia no! Shouldn't we have a choice?? 
The father is NOT the head of the family. No! We have both the father and the mother working an institution, both are leaders in their respective areas. Marriage is a partnership! Stop this mentality, dear Malaysians! 
Well, I'm afraid my argument has gone rather emotional, I need an objective perspective on this issue, but it is just so difficult because it is so dear to me, this issue on equality.

In an ideal world where equality exists, both parents will be taking care of their children, not assuming that a mother's role is childcare. There wouldn't be advertisements where the tagline says "Mothers, if you want the best for your babies, Spotty Nappy Rash Cream is the way to go!" I would be rather insulted as a man not to be included in the upbringing of my own child.
If we were in an ideal world, mothers would have longer maternity leaves, the same amount of time given to the father, so that the baby's first few formative months are touched with love and care from both sides. EQUALLY. In an ideal world, mothers would be allowed to breastfeed whenever and wherever she would like to. There is nothing shameful with breastfeeding, it is society that is messed up and evil. In an ideal world, if parents cannot afford enrolling their kid to private nursing homes before resuming work, government based nursing homes would take on that role. If parents still refuse to let childcare be taken over by strangers, their workplace would be enhanced with play areas for kids with working parents so that mothers never ever have to choose between her career and her child. NEVER EVER. That is an ideal world. An ideal world is never assuming that some women DO NOT WANT children(like me!)(yes, just because I have a uterus doesn't mean I want a child in it.)

Dear Najib, with a picture of what a feminist's ideal world looks like, I hope you are able to build a society around this, or at least something close enough. Because Malaysia, with the headlines you've been making about statutory rape and whatnot, you are nowhere near equality, especially with such things as women's parking areas, women's coaches, etc etc.

Why do we always work on keeping women safe and not in fact making the environment safe for her? Heavier punishments for women offenders, the importance of equality in our textbooks, the shift in mindset of Malaysians that we are equals! Why do we in fact work on "protecting" our women. Oh don't wear this or you'll attract some random man who will rape you and chop you into little pieces. Oh don't go there at night because it is unsafe. Oh don't do that or you might offend someone.
Men have lust, so what? Learn to control it. The very fact that you need to control women and deem them as submissive because of your lust, sort of insults you. It shows that you're a sex maniac and that all you can think about is your lust. Doesn't it show how impure your mind is? If you're looking at it from a religious point of view.

*sigh* but who am I ranting this to? To the society? Hopefully this puts some sense into some male chauvinistic pigs and women who claim feminism isn't important. Feminism is the notion that women are humans too. If you're striving for equality, then you're a feminist. Men and women, likewise.

Say AYE if you're a feminist!

Peace out, y'all! :D